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Live.Love.Laugh.

18th March 2011:
Birthday's are fun everyone says. I am never too excited about my Birthday, mostly because my birthday being in March used to coincide with the exams since 1^st Std. But this was way different, my 18th B'day...turning a Major, getting the right to VOTE in the biggest democracy in the world.

Some unexpected people wish you...some expected people don't wish you...but wait....she just wished me...OMG...she wrote happy b'day on my facebook wall....we don't need anything more now....just a single "like" or a single "poke" can make a huge difference these days. Facebook plays a huge impact in our lives, doesn’t it? Whenever you get free time…just think for one minute…what would have happened if Facebook wasn’t there….feels horrible..trust me.

Thanks Zuckerberg! :P

Giving a serious thought to what I can ask for my birthday gift....it’s my 18th Birthday....the gift should be special....still thinking....asking a friend WHAT I can ask for....still thinking....HOW can this happen? Do I have everything? No no...wait....this can't be possible....if you get everything in life...how will you understand the value of NOT having something but still I haven't thought of a B'day gift...guess I am thankful to my family that they have given my everything as and when needed...and I turn sentimental and grateful.....but life is not only about having all the objects...gifts etc....it’s also about having all the people and relations you want....which is not possible all the time.

April Onwards:

Awkwardness...jealousy...insecurity...pain…frustration all are slowing creeping in my mind...and suddenly...AYE AYE AYE AYE.....I hear children shouting....oh wait...I am on a kids camp...and the bus has entered a tunnel...I join them enthusiastically. I love kids....they have TAUGHT me so much over the past 2 months. Being elder to them doesn't stop me from enjoying and shouting in the tunnels....playing trump cards with them...taking "dhai dudh bhat"....playing "soup macoroni"….just the smile on their faces is more than thousand words said.

I am happy with my current "summer" life...suddenly...I am singing "Give me some sunshine....give me some rain...give me another chance....I WANT TO GROW UP ONCE AGAIN."

Damn it...sometimes I don't want to grow up....school was BEST....things were SO perfect then....no cell phone....limited close and trusted friends....no break-up's and patch-up's.....no confusions and complications....no rejections....everything was BEST!!

But...imagine what would happen if we remain kids forever...we need change in life...life slowly becomes monotonous and I am somewhere glad that I am growing up...making new friends...meeting new people...learning new things.

My summer season continues...having fun with new kids after every 4-5 days...new jokes...new songs...new dances...new fun. To my amusement children of about 11-12 years come and ask me..."Dada...do you have a girl-friend??" ....I still remember I was way too innocent when I was their age...the kids are amused when I tell them that even I used to collect pokemon tazzos and watch cartoons when I was their age...

The transition from that innocent small Gaurav to a young adult Gaurav now seems very smooth...when I watch myself in the mirror, it makes me wonder whether I really want to go out in that competitive world out there, with dreams of becoming an entrepreneur...am I going to survive in the big bad world out there? But then..."Survival of the fittest" is nature's rule and this is NOT going to stop me from chasing my dreams

Why does it happen that when you least expected someone to leave you or a relation to go away it goes away. Be it any relation...many times it so happens that things don't go back to normal...but this just is a probability. Should I say something or no....It happens with everyone…at one point or another we get confused in life about many things….there is always a pendulum in our mind which swings from one thing to another doubting ourselves....only reason being we fear consequences of taking decisions.

Life = Risk

and people fail to understand this.

But the problem….Like I said is fear of consequences. People are too afraid to lose what is theirs. But like I said LIFE = RISK. If you keep on saying, "I won't do a particular thing for the reason...WHAT IF something goes wrong afterwards."

This policy of Prevention is better than Cure doesn't work when it comes to taking decisions in life…specially when it is relations and stuff, and I have seen people learnt it the hard way. So I believe that we shouldn't think TOO much and do what we feel is right at a particular moment and I have been following it since the last 2 months.

Have been trying to follow a simple thing:

LIVE.LOVE.LAUGH.

The LOVE thing….I guess…I should talk less about it….people keep on believing in “Prevention is better than Cure” and I have become A burnt child that dreads fire.”

Well....finally...have written something after 4 months and it feels bloody good. It took me almost 2 days to write this…have lost the touch I guess, Just hoping that the number of followers will reach 50. This time, I am not even telling people that please use the option to your right side and share it on Facebook. I am more than happy if this whole post just brought a smile on your face.

So...LIVE your life to the fullest...LOVE and be loved...LAUGH at all the things that don't matter.

P.S - If you are reading my blog for the 1st time...please do go through all other posts as well.

"Random" Thoughts!

It was about 2 days back that I received a forwarded message which said..."Once in lifetime....do fall in love....not necessarily with a person...it gives you pain BUT with an Idea, a Dream or An Ambition....it will give you more reasons to smile." :-)

I modified that message for my sake and added that fact that don't fall in love with people who don't value you or your feelings. Love...here does NOT mean...relationships...it is love...a simple emotion...often misunderstood as a "confusing complex" one by many.

Oh yeah...and by the way....after writing my last entry...did get some feedback saying I should stop writing on topics like love relationships etc. Thank you for your frank opinions but well its "The world through MY eyes"(Title of my blog).
I also believe that a teenager having NO crush...love...relationships in his whole of teenage has lost out on something important. However boring it may seem after a point it makes you mature.

And considering the fact that I end my teen life in next 2 years, I am happy. Looking back....I have had sufficient amount of all of this....I mean....this IS the age to do such things....if I won't cry for a girl at this age...should I cry for her when I am supposed to work my as* off and work hard..?! Obviously not..!

I don't want to answer JUST a 'yes' if people ask me at the age of 30 whether I enjoyed my teen life or not..whether I had a someone special or no....whether I freaked out or not..!!
Life is NOT as long as it seems....ENJOY as much as you can..! :D And...that means enjoying studying as well..! ;-)

Coming back to the message I was talking about....it just inspired me....and hope it does inspire you too....to cry for yourself....rather than someone else who doesn't even bloody care or even if they care....don't cry for someone who doesn't deserve you..! Cry for India who needs you the most...and most important....whatever you do...put your whole and soul in it...and no this is NOT the dialogue that we hear from our parents or elderly people...I did try doing something giving my 100% and well...I did succeed..! :)

I believe that people waste their time talking about the past....having grudges....and all bloody negative aspects of life..! Even I was one of them...but finally realized..

"My interest is in the future... because I'm going to spend
the rest of my life there."

Always forgive....but NEVER forget....life is not as good as it seems.

So next time when you are happy....express it in whatever way you can...!!
If you see a person without a smile...give him yours..!! Life is better when you are happy but life is BEST when other people are happy because of you.

Well...haven't quite written what exactly I had thought of when I started....but well....I am happy...and that's what matters!

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Love and Friendship

Has it ever happened with you that the person you like/love doesn't like you back? If it hasn't....then you are missing an important part of life..."rejection". However painfully it seems...it unknowingly teaches you loads of things. I have learned a lot and keep on discovering new things about myself everyday. Actually...we all do that.

People have this pre-conceived notion about "Love = Friendship" after watching lots of Bollywood Movies. I think that Love & Friendship are the base for any relation. "Love" is a very relative term and each one has different views about it. But what I want to showcase is when these two things get mixed.

Love after Friendship-
This is where the term love is friendship comes. You CANNOT love each other if you are NOT friends..! I mean...you can't just see a random stranger and then say that I love him without even knowing him. Friendship slowly blossoms into love...it should be from both ends. Sometimes we know that it is happening...sometimes we don't..!

The other thing that again brings in "rejection" is if it is only from one of the person. This makes the people say that Love and friendship can never go hand in hand and many other things. Actually....both the people involved in this case or not at fault. I mean....you like someone...that someone doesn't like you back. Cannot get simpler than this! But these are some of the things in life....easy to say....hard to follow. But its like....the other person has committed no mistake and somewhere friendship is affected....sometimes till the person moves on....sometimes for ever...

But like all problems....this 'problem' does have a solution. But it differs from situation to situation...so wouldn't go into detail of those.

Friendship after Love-
This is the POST break-up period. You both loved each other. Now either of you don't...or you can't be together...BUT...."we'll just remain good friends" is crap. It never happens. If it was just a fling or not so serious relationship....it is possible. Coming out from a relationship and then being friends....seems difficult. If you both are MATURE enough....it is not a problem....but it rarely happens....those memories start haunting you. That is BAD.

Any solution for this....umm....STOP talking to each other. It will hurt...obviously...but then we humans have a beautiful ability called as "adaptability"......we ADJUST....we have no other option.

Lastly.....I can only say.......all of us run behind things which we don't get....and in that forget to value the things we have.....BUT....if we GET everything that we want...."LIFE" would lose its meaning......

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Straight from MY heart....

Have tried a new style of writing....hope all of you read 'between' the lines and somewhere relate to it.

People I call best friends....likings & priorities changed....creating unsaid distances between us...but still I know...how much each one matters to all of us...no matter what at the end of the day we are there for each other.....then why those distances??......happens with everyone? wanting some relations back in life as they where......NEVER getting everything we want in life....but if we did....wouldn't life lose its meaning?

Perhaps me too young to comment on life and stuff.....Am I too mature for my age?....my ex told me I was too mature....another close friend tells me to stop being immateur...does this happen with everyone??....I keep on telling people there is no such thing as confusion....but can I myself live up to that?

Why is there always a confusion whether I like someone or not....whether its attraction..lust..obsession?? .....But am I the only one who is facing this?...It happens with everyone,right? ....why does naming a relation create distances??...why do we need to be good friends,really good friends,best friends??.....Cant' we be JUST friends?..that word means a lot to all...doesn't it?

But then it strikes me.....I am not going to gain anything in these things...isn't studying for my exams more important than this??....how much ever I portray that not studying isn't affecting me....is it because in today's life that is cooler?.....I don't want to be cool by portraying this...I know my cell distracts me from studies....BUT still why do I check it every now and then while studying??

Why can't I just cut-off from FACEBOOK and my mobile...study?? Away from all these things...new friends...old friends...this group....that group....photos...bulk messaging.....plans getting canceled...last minute plans leading to fun...teasing and stuff....getting invited...getting ditched...back-bitching...GOSSIPING..! And then it suddenly strikes me...at the age of 17 I am having so much fun...when about 40% children of my age are not even getting a proper LIFE.....affection love family are out of question....not even Food shelter clothing & EDUCATION..! But WHAT CAN I DO?? :'( ...how can me enjoying less help them even if I want to???

Well...but...this is Teenage...we have to learn...get ready to face to world...get out from our protective shell....at the same time enjoying life....long talks with friends...helping us to decide wether we like her or not....what we should do etc...finally we decided to move on...this is not just happening.....I'll give you a new one says a close friend....why do you worry??...we get happy...But wait a second....someone just messaged...OHH....its her....ssup??....OMG!! WHAT SHOULD I DO NOW?? HELP!!! :D :D

Insecurity....never spares anyone!

After having thought on many topics on which I can write...I finally chose this one. "Insecurity".
This word when asked as a question might be the one of those whose answer is always negative.
Example: One friend to another: Are you Feeling insecure? Friend: NO! Why the hell would I feel insecure. Sometimes....it is true indeed, like all other feelings this can be misunderstood as well. But it happens rarely.

As the title says...Insecurity...it ACTUALLY never spares anyone. You can see it right from a baby child of about 1 year who cries when someone goes near his mother to a man of about 50years who might get insecure in a financial difficulty.

Getting insecure is basically losing your confidence when its regarding your work...and getting jealous when its regarding relations. The positive part is that Insecurity never discriminates....be it anyone, one has to face it. Jealousy...Envy....Insecurity are 3 painful things. Somewhat related to each other. They happen in every teenager's life. Be it not getting invited to a certain party OR not looking good as someone else is OR wanting to posses something that you don't have. You can see these qualities everywhere.

Getting insecure out of the limit results in relations getting dirty which may result in ugly fights.
Frustration on that person OR trying to get even closer to that person OR Sulking is what most insecure people do. But getting insecure shows the true feelings of a person. I mean...insecurity is something that can be rarely faked. So when someone somewhere...is getting insecure because of you. You do mean a lot to that thing/person

Lastly...I would say, having learned from my "insecure" experiences...what we can do is treat it just like other feelings such as happiness,love,anger etc. We should just try and NOT cross that LIMIT.

"Categories" of Teen Lovers!

Disclaimer : After reading the following entry you will feel like relating the people mentioned here to some of the people who affect our lives in some or the other way. I just want to say it is "purely intentional."

Attraction towards the opposite sex starts in Teenage and it is fun phase in life! Teasing each other,relationships etc etc.!! Unknowingly these things help us learn a lot & like everything we see different types of Teenage "love". After observing and talking to many of my friends. I have shortlisted about 7 categories of different Teenage 'lovers' Hope you can relate to AT LEAST one of them!

1.Despo Category:
These kind of people are large in numbers once we enter our colleges after 10th. They are "DESPERATE" for a relationship or just want a fling. They just want to show off!! Most of the times, these relations don't last very long..!
2.Break-up....patch up....Break up....patch up...category:
Even I was a part of this category once..! And I agree this is mostly for publicity! :P But...the main problem with these people are they think that ONLY solution after a fight is break-up! So, most of the times it isn't a break-up but just a fight!!
3."Love" does not exist category:
These are very unique! Neither do I understand why are they afraid of saying they are infatuated towards someone at this age nor do I know why can't they accept the simple fact that these things keep on happening in Teenage! I do agree that "love" is a "heavy" word to use in Teenage but..I mean..c'mon yaar..you losing a major part in your teenage
4.BORED! But still in a relationship category:
I have seen numerous examples of these kind of people. It's just that they have been in a relationship for quite a long time now and both of them know that they are "used" to each other. Breaking up with that person will mean starting from a scratch! And who knows whether they will again get the girl/boy they want ! So what these kind do is keep avoiding problems when the only "practical" solution is parting ways!
5.Still waiting for that right one category:
There are a majority of girls in these categories! But the people who are in this category LOVE to flirt! They know that they can keep on saying..I am waiting for that right guy/girl and enjoy life!
6.I-just-want-to-get-PHYSICAL:
These category people are adored by the people who LOVE gossiping! X & Y were sitting hand in hand! She was sitting behind him! They smooched etc etc!! These kind of people just want to DO these things and that's all what matters to them! Guess they don't know where their limits are! ;-)
7.Remaining ones:
The above ones are the prominent categories! Remaining ones include people like self-proclaimed bro-sis category who tell everyone..."NO! Y are u linking me up with her...she is like a sister!!" These kind of people are simple cowards who don't have the bloody guts to say that he/she is my best friend and nothing more! Why to fake relations for that !

Well...I just hope you can relate yourself somewhere! If not...would love to know some new "categories"

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