People have this pre-conceived notion about "Love = Friendship" after watching lots of Bollywood Movies. I think that Love & Friendship are the base for any relation. "Love" is a very relative term and each one has different views about it. But what I want to showcase is when these two things get mixed.
Love after Friendship-
This is where the term love is friendship comes. You CANNOT love each other if you are NOT friends..! I mean...you can't just see a random stranger and then say that I love him without even knowing him. Friendship slowly blossoms into love...it should be from both ends. Sometimes we know that it is happening...sometimes we don't..!
The other thing that again brings in "rejection" is if it is only from one of the person. This makes the people say that Love and friendship can never go hand in hand and many other things. Actually....both the people involved in this case or not at fault. I mean....you like someone...that someone doesn't like you back. Cannot get simpler than this! But these are some of the things in life....easy to say....hard to follow. But its like....the other person has committed no mistake and somewhere friendship is affected....sometimes till the person moves on....sometimes for ever...
But like all problems....this 'problem' does have a solution. But it differs from situation to situation...so wouldn't go into detail of those. Friendship after Love-
This is the POST break-up period. You both loved each other. Now either of you don't...or you can't be together...BUT...."we'll just remain good friends" is crap. It never happens. If it was just a fling or not so serious relationship....it is possible. Coming out from a relationship and then being friends....seems difficult. If you both are MATURE enough....it is not a problem....but it rarely happens....those memories start haunting you. That is BAD.
Any solution for this....umm....STOP talking to each other. It will hurt...obviously...but then we humans have a beautiful ability called as "adaptability"......we ADJUST....we have no other option.
Lastly.....I can only say.......all of us run behind things which we don't get....and in that forget to value the things we have.....BUT....if we GET everything that we want...."LIFE" would lose its meaning......
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Mr. Gaurav Joshi
ReplyDeletefirst of all very well written blog! :) u hav put up thgts which are very common in 16-18 kids.
I feel you are very negative abt being friends after love..I wish to say dat it is definitely possible..both of dem need to be matured or rather understanding..and talking abt memories haunting..well its better to be friends rather then cut off all d ties and suffer alone..being frnds just helps to recover fast..or who knows maybe u can fall in love back wid each other!! :) that 'being friends' can help bring back d lost love! :)
Again it is wat I feel..and hav just put up my views..nothing personal! :P :D
newys good work..keep writing! :)
best of luck! :)
Love the blog!
ReplyDeleteYour blog talks about inevitable 'life experiences'. These are things which we all go through at some point in life. And I'm thinking.. anyone who is experiencing these feelings for the first time and is feeling isolated, is going to read your blog and say to himself, "Hey, what I am feeling is normal.. it's not just me.. this happens to everyone". He is going to find reassurance in your blog. And that in itself is powerful :)
ReplyDeleteIt takes courage to pen down your "thoughts" openly on a blog. I love it ! Cheers!
A well written blog... I would definately appreciate your maturity.. Its indeed fantastic.. This is a subtle topic in almost every individuals life which you've highlighted... Keep it up!
ReplyDeletecheers!
Hey Gaurav,
ReplyDeletevery well written blog...liked it a lott!!
I agree with you that after break-up itz tough to remain jus friendz...u cant!! It happens only in case of some people..!! N totally agree with the "rejection" part..:P
Why does it always happen that the person we like dosent likes us?? N the person for whom we dont have feelings likes us??
This is LIFE...we never get what we want...but we get what we deserve..so i guess we should wait for that one thing..!!
Keep writing...good job!!! cheers!!
Gaurav,
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with all that you said just one question..... what if the other person still wants to be friends with you???? and may be unknowingly you hurt the other person by doing what you feel is right????
Yeah...I agree with you....it happens that we hurt that person....but we can't keep EVERYONE happy...can we? :O
ReplyDeleteCheers,
Gaurav
@ Other Anonymous and Mehak....
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot..! Keep reading!
And yeah....please forward this link to at least 1 friend of yours...! Thanking you in anticipation! :P
Cheers,
Gaurav
well-written........truly said and perfectly executed.......!!!!!!!! i cudnt agree more wid wateva u have written here...!! friendship and love are two diff things.....n mixing them only leads to more problems...n being friends after a break up is like "u have a pet which dies..n then saying u can still keep da dead pet wid u"..!! :D :D wat say??
ReplyDeletekeep updating! :)
cheers....!
wa wa, chaan chaan...sundar lihitos agdi :D
ReplyDeleteyou write well for your age! :) i liked your blog! but sometimes it kills to let go not mere hurt.. and @rohan i agree with you totally...
ReplyDeleteHey gaurav!
ReplyDeleteyeah i would agree with you about most of the things you said...but trust me, remaining friends after the break is in fact, not rare at all. I know many people who were once in a relationship and are friends now. Like, good ones and they are going out with other people. Of course, it can be really awkward in the beginning..but as they say, time heals everything..and you retain that amazing friend who you fell in love with!
@ Rohan...
ReplyDeleteI loved that example!! :)
Keep reading
Cheers,
Gaurav
you noe you are getting reaaaly monotonous. there are things other than summertime crushes the juvinile squadling and the teenage hormone induced short-term depressions!! switch to something else for a while na.... otherwise ull end up like those loud sappy indian telly shows which keep on stretching the same luvey duvey theme to make up 4 the lack of substance....
ReplyDeletejust my opinion... u r capable of writing good so plz dont limit urself to dis......
Are you ok? you should go see a doctor!
ReplyDeleteA good one i must say...though i did not totally agree....well,thats the usual part.Isnt it?
ReplyDeleteEnjoy
Manasi
@ Arundhati...
ReplyDeleteThank you for the frank opinion. :)
But I don't write for people....I write for myself.
But yeah...I will think of writing about various issues too.! :)
Cheers,
Gaurav
@ Anonymous...
ReplyDeleteYes...I am perfectly fine. Thank you! :)