After asking lots of people...what should I write....was stuck really! Did think of writing Teenage Relationships Part - 5! But, well...people think it is for publicity! Actually...what people think changes over a period of time and why not..?? There would have been no fun in life without change!
But there is always good change and bad change! Be it in Social Sciences like a revolution which a slow and steady change or in Science where you can see fast change is the states of matter or be it life where you can see people change drastically!
Complicating simple things is never difficult for anyone! So...things like "love" , "change in behavior of people" are NEVER complicated, its the "situation" that makes you think it is complicated.
For example, I believe no human being is innately bad, its just the situation in which he is forces him to take actions which hurt us and make us feel that he is wicked and stuff..!
As for change in behavior of people...it can vary from person to person and again depends on the scenario! But, be it your best friends, family or anyone...people do change! They are human beings after all.!
The quality that we must have is to accept all the "positive" things in the changed person and move on with it. It so happens that the change is too much to handle and things can get ugly and relations can get spoiled!
You can't just get up one day and decide...I am going be like this from today..!! I do agree that we need to change with time but being yourself and getting accepted in the society is the real "happiness" in life than portraying yourself as someone else just for sake of getting accepted!
"Change" also initiates a hunger for Revenge in minds of many people and THAT is going to be my next topic! If you have any small incidents about "Revenge" you can mail it to me at gajoshi@gmail.com Privacy guaranteed.!
P.S - In the last entry I had written about "वाया जाणं"! Thanks a lot for your answers! Indeed helped me a lot! Hope you respond in the same way and share your experiences about taking Revenge! :)
Well, firstly, I think you meant to write "without" in the last line of the first paragraph. At least I hope you did... "There would have been no fun in life without change."
ReplyDeleteI agree with you on the point about people changing over time, according to the situation. But, sometimes, it is just the way you look at people that changes, and makes you think that the person has changed.
What I mean is, take any example, like maybe a relationship, or even just two friends. When the two meet for the first time, they don't know what to expect from one another. Over time, they get to know each other, and the bond gets stronger. Each one makes a certain image of the other in his or her mind.
Once this image is made, it is permanent. You start expecting certain things from that person. Some things are taken for granted. And when, due to any lame reason, one of the expectation is not met with, your perspective of looking at the person changes.
Doubts are created in your mind, "do I really know him/her?" But all that might have happened, is that the other person never changed. He/She was always like this, but only because you had that image in your mind and expected some things by you, which never happened, you think that there has been a change in that person.
It is not always, a person that changes.... The way of looking at that person can change which makes you feel that the person has changed. Think on this!!!
I liked the line in your post: "being yourself and getting accepted in the society is the real "happiness" in life than portraying yourself as someone else just for sake of getting accepted!" Nice one!! :)
Keep writing....
Akhil
hey u hav written some really nyc things. well i agree to most of them..n naturally some parts well.."patat nahit". :P but i've grown fond of reading your blog. great work!!keep it going... :)
ReplyDeletecudnt agree wid u more on dis entry gaurav...a perfectly well written entry...dis has been ur best entry till date...i loved ur topic a lot...and u hav specified each n every point required for dis topic...glad to hav a friend who writes such a good blog...GREAT JOB :) :)...keep it up!!! n keep writing...
ReplyDeleteAniket :)
Hey totally agreed wid ur topic n da way u ve written it...itz jus awesome!!!
ReplyDeleteWell, i totally agree wid wat all u ve written.. people do change n v hav to accept their change n as u said luk at da positive points in em...but..
Newaz, vry well written...glad to hv a frnd..who writes such a nice blog!!! keep it up!!!
Prachi :) :)
gr8 gaurav!!!!!!ur articles r soooo true n pleasing!!!really..u r a gr8 writer...n i truly agree wid watever u have written.
ReplyDeleteits true....expectations are mostly the sole cause of all negativity...btw, are u saying this from experience or smthng?
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